Avoid over-comforting your child. Over-comforting sends the message that you think this is a scary situation.
Did you notice how he smiled when you did that? For example, when someone says hello to you, always say hello back. Practise show-and-tell or class presentations with your child at home. This will help your child feel more comfortable when she has to stand up in front of her class.
Encourage your child to do some extracurricular activities. Try to find ones that encourage social behaviour — for example, Scouts, Girl Guides or sport.
Avoid negative comparisons with more confident siblings or friends. Is he more comfortable with adults or children? Every child is different. For instance, one normally shy child who clung to her parents whenever meeting a new person immediately fell in love with her new pediatrician who looked a bit like her adored grandmother.
You never can tell! Some children have a tougher time joining in an activity when there is a lot of stimulation: sounds, lights, movement, and so on. In fact, some research has found that being sensitive to textures and sounds is associated with a more fearful temperament.
This lets her know that you understand her. I understand. Saying good-bye is hard. Engage your child in an activity that he enjoys. For example, you might sit on the floor and begin building a block tower with your child, or read part way through a book that you can finish when you reunite.
This can be a helpful strategy in bridging the time between when you part and when you reconnect. Invite another child or caregiver to join you in your activity to help make the transition. Before I go, I will give you a big hug and kiss. Be sure to say good-bye. Consider creating a good-bye ritual to share with your toddler.
These kinds of rituals can make separations easier. Ask a trusted caregiver to stay with your child while you leave. You will miss me, and I will miss you. But I need to leave to go to my job. And you will stay here and do your job—learning and playing. Miss Kathy will stay with you and take good care of you.
I will come back after naptime to pick you up. This can be confusing to your child and make it harder for him to adapt to your absence. It sends the message that you are worried about him, which may make him think there is something to worry about.
Your child picks up on your cues. If you act anxious, he is likely to feel anxious too. If you show confidence that you know he will be fine, he is likely to feel more secure and adapt more quickly to the separation. Make sure your child knows you love and accept her.
Respect her needs, when you can. Avoid labels. Make time to play together doing things your child enjoys. Provide comfortable opportunities for developing social skills. These opportunities might include playtime with one or two other children. Make time for your child to warm up to new caregivers. So plan ahead and make sure you have enough time to help your child get acquainted and comfortable with the caregiver. Give notice about new people, events, and places. Letting her know what to expect gives your child a sense of control, which can reduce her anxiety.
Put what you think your child is feeling into words. Want to see if we can join in? Provide regular opportunities for social interaction in your home. Getting together with family and friends gives children an opportunity to practice social skills in a familiar, safe setting.
Read books about friendships. Jane Yolen. Tuning in to your own approach to new people and situations is important. If you share a similar temperament with your child, his approach may feel natural and not be of any concern. Be responsive to their needs. Model confident behavior with others—be friendly towards strangers in supervised settings and model a relaxed attitude about social interactions of all kinds.
Teach your child not to be afraid of all strangers, focus instead on teaching your child to stay with an adult that is responsible for their care e. Teach your child social skills.
This can be as simple as arranging play dates or participation in play groups. Provide positive reinforcement and praise for your child. Look for opportunities to build their self-esteem and confidence. Children who feel good about themselves tend to be more confident. Blog Search Enter your keywords.
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